– Do you pay the bill for your relationship?

– Are you giving more of yourself to your partner without receiving anything in return?

– Are you paying for everything except justifying your actions?

– When you talk about events, for example movies, concerts or social functions, do you say “I don’t have the money” instead of saying we don’t?

Something very sinister is going on in the world of relationships and it starts when women buy affection with their money, or self-respect and, in most cases, both.

I am noticing an ugly pattern of women who are so frustrated with the “finding a man” process, that they are making extremely poor self-defeating decisions. This is especially the case when they meet a guy who is above their expectations in the appearance or status category. She will lose her self-respect and dignity just to stay with that man. She is aware that this man is not good for her, but he cannot leave.

OMG! Don’t let her meet a guy with status and looks; because this is when the most educated and prosperous woman can surprisingly lose her edge, confidence, self-esteem and dignity.

Why? Well, it’s about limiting beliefs, fear, and for some of these women, the deep feeling that they don’t deserve a man of that caliber. It’s really how they feel about themselves. Now stay with me, I’m going to take you to a very ugly place.

Here in 2010, there are women who are STILL NOT comfortable with their dark skin color and would accept all kinds of messiness and disrespect from the El Debarge brothers. Watching them closely, you’ll hear subtle comments about wanting dark-skinned or (blue-black) boys and girls with long hair. Also, a woman who thinks this way will bring up past relationships when she dated a fair-skinned guy. She kept asking me and asking, “Why are you describing a man when the question wasn’t on the table?” She would never get an intelligent answer even from educated women; They would just say “Phil, I’m just saying” But why? This is what I’m thinking.

Below are some women in these categories: overweight and average to below average looking who are doing the exact same thing with men who are ABOVE their expectations.

All these women are buying cars, clothes, all sorts of fine gifts for these men and getting NOTHING in return except the ability to showcase this man among their friends, family, and co-workers and, yes, church members. Many of them stay home waiting by the phone, maxing out credit cards, spending all their money chasing this guy, cheating on him, and still looking for ways to impress him by doing whatever he wants. They act like they’re scared, or too much in love to kick that NO okay, lying, cheating, gigolo disrespecting the curve.

I found that most of these women have a great fear that another woman will catch that man, after she let him go and he would go straight and fly fine! This is unbelievable, but very true! It will be difficult to find someone who can convince them to leave that man.

I also have to say that a more attractive woman with average looking guys flocking to her is not without her problems either. She’ll see, they’re looking for the cream of the crop brothers, the high caliber type; one with looks, intelligence and status. If she finds one who’s cute and in a professional position, even if she’s not making any money yet, jump on him. She will see the potential and do exactly the same thing; try to buy her affection. Many focus on the status rather than the actual relationship and treatment.

These tragedies happen every day and many of you reading this article know someone I describe.

Ladies, loving yourself is a verb! It requires your actions, not just words.

A high-caliber guy is one who is aligned with your values ​​and outlook on life. Not how good or cute he is and the state of him. He may be fine and cute, but NO MAN IS WORTH THE LOSS OF YOUR SELF-RESPECT AND DIGNITY! Never be afraid to leave a man who mistreats you.

Sharing and caring for each other is not buying affection. But when you are expected to carry the load without contribution, you are simply a woman paying to support a man.

Don’t buy this lame line from a man: “You’ll never find another man like me”, “Men don’t grow on trees for women like you”, “Who would want a woman with so many children”, “You better be happy with what What’s wrong…”

Guess what, all these comments are only true, YES, you believe such a thing.