“Love On The Rocks” is a great old Neil Diamond song. If that happens to you, if your relationship or marriage is in jeopardy, would you know how to handle it? A marriage that is failing affects everyone around it, family, friends and, above all, the two people who are being separated.

If you are losing or have lost your wife, it is hard, but you can get through it. In many cases men lose their wives because they did not treat them with enough love and respect. They didn’t spend the time like you would with a best friend, they didn’t take the time to appreciate her and say the things women want to hear, and not just say the words, but mean them.

What went wrong?

Do you know what is the problem? Maybe you worked long hours “for the family” and don’t feel appreciated. Meanwhile, his wife is thinking “he doesn’t spend time with me, he doesn’t appreciate me”. There is a serious disconnect here and the problem is that many men take overtime without discussing it with their wives. In fact, this could be an effort to pay some bills and you are both working at odds with each other. You could be doing that while she treats her loneliness with a trip to the mall. They are both wrong and need to be on the same page.

It may also be that there just wasn’t the mutual respect and care we talked about earlier, whatever it is, find out.

What to do after knowing what happened

Both of you probably need to apologize to each other; she buys you first and don’t be at fault or expect her to apologize too. Just when you understand your part in the breakup, apologize. When you apologize, make sure you are willing to change whatever it is. Make the switch, she will believe what she sees more than just words. Many people are not true to her words, make sure you are.

When all is said and done, face your problems and take action. This is the recipe for any problem. Remember that talking is cheap and if you have been down this road before by apologizing and then repeating the problem behavior then you really need to calm down and show him that you have made changes.