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When is it too late to save a marriage? Why I believe that it is almost never too late

I often hear from wives who are concerned that they have waited too long (or not done enough) to save their troubled marriages. Many tell me that they think it’s been too long before they’ve tried to make a positive change, so they worry that they can’t really do anything to fix what has been broken for a long time. And many are not at peace with this and do not want to give up. Many of these wives are looking for some effort to repair their marriage before they are forced to throw in the towel.

I often hear comments like “when is it too late to save or fix your marriage?” because I worry that it is too late for us. nothing remains”. going to save him.”

Frankly, it is my opinion that it is almost never too late. I have seen couples who actually got divorced remarry. I have seen couples who had started relationships with other people get back together. And I’ve seen couples who can’t even stand being in the same room and eventually change things. In short, I have seen marriages long left for dead come back together with a little effort, luck, and diligence. I will discuss more about this matter in the following article.

If you’re worried that it’s too late to save your marriage, you may be right because your fears can become a self-fulfilling prophecy: I often hear wives say things like, “I’m not ready to give up on my marriage. In fact, I still love my husband, but I know it’s too late for us.” This is very unfortunate because the wife is going to give up, almost making sure that she is absolutely right about it being too late. If she allows these fears and assumptions to prevent her from taking any real action, then she is practically guaranteeing that she will get the very thing she doesn’t want and fears the most.

If you really want and intend to save your marriage, you’re much better off promising to take a measured approach, do your best, and wait and see before you make any potentially dangerous assumptions. It’s often best not to try to quantify emotions and relationships that often don’t fit into neat little categories. Focus on what you can control and try to believe that if you do it right, all the other pieces will fall into place.

Times when it may be too late to save the marriage: There are some cases where I have observed that the marriage is more likely to end. These are cases where one spouse has abused another (or the couple’s children) and they simply can’t or won’t make any permanent changes to make sure it stops.

Another case where the marriage sometimes ends is when both parties become completely indifferent and not invested. What I mean by that is that no one is angry, fearful, or jealous anymore. Both parties are at peace with the decision to end the marriage because they both know that it ended naturally and that even though they did their best to prevent it, they still fell short.

However, I have to say that more often than not, this is not the situation I see. Most often, at least only one of the spouses is indifferent. Although it is a little more difficult to save a marriage when one spouse is indifferent (or thinks he is), it is not impossible if the willing spouse is able to make some notable and necessary changes on his own.

Cases in which it is not too late to fix your marriage: I often hear from people who tell me that they are sure that their marriage is too far away. They will confess that they and their spouse tell each other that they hate each other, fight all the time, or are unfaithful. It’s like they think if they can pile on a bunch of negative descriptions, I’ll finally give up and admit, “Okay, your marriage is too far away. It can’t be saved.”

This almost never happens. Why? Because if people have taken the time to search and then ask me about their marriage, they certainly aren’t indifferent to what happens to it. So it is obvious that at least one of the spouses is still somewhat engaged and not indifferent. And frankly, it doesn’t always matter that they hate each other or are constantly fighting. Sure, they will have to change these emotions and behaviors. But the presence of strong emotions (even negative ones) at least shows me that mutual indifference is not present.

And yes, people tell me that one of them is leaving or has moved. They tell me that they are leaving or have separated. None of these things throw me off that much. Because I’ve seen a rebound of marriages like this (including my own). I know it can be done. The question you often don’t ask is: “Is it too late to save my marriage?” Instead, it’s, “what am I going to do to save my marriage before it’s too late?”

Rather than worry about putting a definition or constraint on your relationship, it’s often much better to come up with an effective and workable plan. I learned this the hard way. Trust me when I say that it is almost never too late to save your marriage, but the longer you wait to take some final and effective action, the more difficult it becomes.

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