Phew.

That’s a loaded topic.

Especially, if you are a busy professional woman trying to do everything.

After all, every woman knows that if she does everything right and is perfect in every way, she will be serving love and will get the love she wants.

Swill!

Being perfect won’t make them love you.

In fact, trying to be perfect makes you cranky. It makes it a challenge for other people to be around you. And that makes you one of the most difficult people to love.

So, stop fighting for perfection!

Instead, accept your imperfections.

What makes women strive for perfection?

To embrace and love your glorious imperfections, you must first understand what drives your quest for perfection.

In a word: fear.

As women in general, and busy professional women in particular, the number one fear that drives our pursuit of perfection is the fear of not being good enough.

Others’ judgment of not being good enough:

· Breast.

· Company owner.

· Career woman.

Wife.

· Sister.

Daughter.

Self-concept as not being good enough:

Person!

Oh!

For many women, the fear of not being good enough came from people we loved or admired and who wanted us to be, do, or have more. Although apparently innocent and dressed in the ‘sheep’s skin’ of good intentions, the wolf at our heels eroded our self-confidence and germinated our distrust in ourselves and in others.

For other women, having self-confidence was not modeled or valued. As a result, being ‘perfect’ meant being like someone else whom they heard praised for their perfection.

Either way, “The condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all defects or faults,” as defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is an impossible ideal.

Why being a perfectionist is bad for you

You miss RREP&A.

That is rest, recovery, ease, peace and acceptance.

As busy professional women, we need RREP&A.

Without it, we are:

R means restless

R means relapse into ill health, feeling

me means ashamed, converted

P means panic and have

HAS means anxiety.

When that happens, we experience adrenal fatigue, hormonal imbalances, and become moody with others.

Three Steps to Embrace Your Beautiful Imperfections

Step 1: Love yourself.

The first step is the most difficult. It is the step that unlocks any resistance you have to the next steps.

Love yourself first. You just have to do it. There is no beating around the bush about it. So, I’m going to go straight to the heart of this: no self-love, no love. I know. That’s big to swallow.

Here’s how you do it: Curl up on the sofa one afternoon with a cup of tea, a pad of paper, and your favorite pen. Start making a list of all the things you have accomplished in your life. List everything big and small.

wow! Right? Look how much you have achieved! It is quite impressive!

Now go back through the list and acknowledge all that you have accomplished. Let it sink. The first step to accepting your beautiful imperfections is to first love yourself.

Step 2: Take care of your love.

What the hell does that mean?

It means respecting and honoring your body and your emotions. And take time to treasure and honor the bodies and emotions of special people in your life. Your partner, your children and your dear friends must be appreciated.

Here’s how to do it: nourish your body with good food, trust your intuition, speak your truth and honor the truth of others, respect the body of others and support yourself with love to meet needs in a healthy way.

Step 3: Love your imperfections.

The heart of this article is realizing that your imperfections are actually your own unique and personal perfections. They are what make you who you are. They are as individual as snowflakes and as precious as diamonds. Embrace your diamonds and snowflakes.

Your imperfections are your lessons. Think of them as guides along your path of achievement.

Here’s how you do it: Remember the list you made in Step 1? Check that list. Choose five that you are proud to achieve. Write them on five separate sheets of paper. Then list the ‘mistakes’ he made along the way that led to his achievement.

Watch? Each ‘mistake’ was simply a springboard to his incredible achievements.

Love your imperfections. embrace them Honor them for how they have helped you become the confident professional woman you know yourself to be. Loving your perfections is liberating. She gives you permission to take the pressure off yourself and relax a bit. Follow these three steps and accept your imperfections now. She will free you to fly into a loving inner space.