If you’re a new parent, perhaps you’ve had a change in your personal circumstances, moved locations or introduced a new lifestyle and are now being offered opportunities to go out when you haven’t socialized in a while, it can be hard to get motivated. to do it. get out of the house and make the effort to participate.

– You may have apprehensions and concerns.. What about the money; How much will it cost, what about incidentals like taxis or babysitters, nails, clothes and hairdressers? What about the other members of the group. Are ‘all’ vibrant, sophisticated ladies or successful businessmen? Will I fit in, what about my conversation skills?

– What if you feel disheveled and unfashionable?, not smart enough? Sometimes a little touch can make all the difference, like a new haircut, a brightly colored top, a signature piece of jewelry. But remember, it’s not your size or what you wear that makes you attractive and interesting to others. I doubt those will be a problem for you when you meet someone new. Give your group credit for being equally insightful and knowing what’s important. Being good company and taking an interest in others is what makes you a valuable and integral part of any group. People like you, not your style of shoes or color of lipstick.

– Take baby steps at first. Be selective about the invitations you accept so that you are already interested and inclined to participate. Make sure there are several attractive factors; you feel comfortable with various members of the group, the place you go to is a place you would enjoy. You may prefer to go out to eat or watch a movie instead of going to a noisy and crowded bar, or you feel happier with an activity like bowling or a class, choose what makes you feel more relaxed.

– Do you feel like you’ve been out of the mix? for so long that you’ve lost the art of adult conversation and have little to talk about other than the kids, work, or home? Decide to fix that by watching some popular TV, keeping up with the news, listening to others, and listening to what they’re talking about.

– And remember, join in and be a good audience member. as well as being an interested listener, or being cool when others prefer to talk about themselves will ensure that you become a welcome addition to the group. Listening is a good alternative position to adopt.

– Give yourself time to prepare, even if you allow a whole day. Set aside time to wash your hair, to decide what you are going to wear. The hassle of getting ready, often a source of fun for other people, can be an added stressor if you haven’t socialized in a while.

– Would it be easier to get there with another person? for you? Maybe arrange a ride or offer to drive so you can go with a ‘friend’ so you can chat, enjoy each other’s company and not be intimidated by traveling alone.

– Organize an emergency escape route, like having a friend’s phone after a couple of hours. So if you feel overwhelmed and need to escape, you can claim that you are needed somewhere else, make your excuses, and walk away. Knowing that someone is checking up on you can be soothing and take away the stress of feeling trapped and forced to stick it out.

– Remind yourself that it’s important to stay connected with the outside world – you are not ‘just’ a partner, parent, employer or employee. He continues to invest in his individual identity and treat it as an important part of his relationship both with himself and with others.

– Consider how you will feel if you decide not to go. Of course, it’s your choice at the end of the day, but instead of turning down, why not commit to going for an hour or two? You can always leave early if you start to feel overwhelmed, but remember that you’re more likely to find that everyone is there to relax and have a good time, too. They are all similar to you, also with problems, problems and worries, equally in need of a night off. Find out how much better you’ll feel once you’ve gone and joined.

By beginning to socialize again, you are reclaiming your identity and living a larger, more expansive life. And very often others share her fears and concerns. Remember, you are not alone!