Pain is a tidal wave that overwhelms you, hitting you with unimaginable force, dragging you into its darkness, where you fall and crash against unidentifiable surfaces, only to be thrown on an unknown beach, bruised, reshaped… Mourning will make you a new person, if he doesn’t kill you in the process. ~Stephanie Ericson

Grievance is one of the deepest and most painful human emotions. Your awful sadness and subsequent mourning may be the result of any one of innumerable circumstances. Some examples may include a serious cancer diagnosis, permanent disability, or amputation. Perhaps you are a wounded warrior fighting with visible or invisible wounds. You may be reeling from the grief of losing a loved one. You feel deprived of your share of happiness. You feel torn apart inside and the pain has settled in your heart and mind like a thick dark fog.

You have reasons to die.

Comprehension

Only when you understand what grievance is and how powerfully it can imprison your thoughts, emotions, and even your entire personality, can you begin to work on your grievance. Understanding your complaint and what you can do to heal helps you begin your healing journey to a healthier, happier place.

Understanding the emotions associated with your grievance is essential to your healing. It is important to remember that the grieving period varies for each person. Whatever the cause of your grievance, it is my deepest wish to express how sorry I am to hear that you are on a painful path. To all who are grieving, grieving, injured, disabled, alone or heartbroken, I extend my compassion and love. To you who have experienced deep pain, sadness or loss and survived, I salute you!

consequences of grief

When a significant loss occurs, it can leave you dazed, shocked, and filled with sadness. Helpless, hopeless, grieving, abandoned and stranded are all emotions you may experience.

Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards, but they will fool you if they can. If they see that you are afraid of them, they are likely to jump on you; but if you look them straight in the eye, they’ll scurry out of sight. ~ Orison Swett Marden

Although you may feel lost and hopeless for a period of time, ultimately there can be hope and healing. While it is necessary to go through the grieving process, don’t let the grievance take away your faith in God, your love of life, and most importantly, your hope for him. I invite you to embrace each moment to find healing, harmony, hope and your peace and joy of living.

self pity

It is important to remember that the grieving period varies for each person. You deserve your own compassion, and it is essential that you be gentle and kind to yourself during the grieving process. Respect and honor your complaint. It is essential that you respect your grieving circumstance. Do not compare your complaint with someone else’s complaint. Yours is personal and unique. Remember that you are deserving of your own compassion and kindness.

Just as you would like to comfort and support someone who is going through a difficult time, believe that you deserve this sweetness too. Consider how you might comfort someone who is going through a period of grief. What kindness could you show them? What kind and loving words could you say to help them? How could you model this to help yourself? In your grievance relief journal, write down at least 5 ways you will show kindness, care, and kindness to yourself in this time of your own grievance. Do at least one of these things today.

grievance partner

Trying to survive your grievance without the help of others to provide comfort and support is not a good option. Trying to work through your grief on your own will hinder your progress and may even cause you to become severely depressed due to loneliness and isolation. As difficult as it may seem, it is essential that you seek support from others and find ways to express your needs. Relationships are essential for your well-being.

Crying with someone can sometimes be more healing than crying alone. Great comfort and peace, even hope, can come to those who know they have someone to turn to in times of crisis or need. There is strength and power in prayer and communion with your God. Are family or friends available to comfort you? Is there a complaint support group in your geographic area? Have you searched for a support group for caregivers? You will likely find a chapter member who will help you better understand and walk through the steps to heal grievances.

You are not alone

Beyond your deep pain, it may be extremely difficult for you to believe right now, there may be hope, joy, and peace in your life. Can you let literally thousands of people who have reason to grieve give you hope? You are not alone. Think of 3 ways others have been able to reconcile their grievance. Consider searching the internet for stories of how others have successfully overcome their difficult challenges. Let these examples empower you.

Emerging and awakening from a condition of deep, dark and undesirable grievance is often surreal. Unlike a bad dream that can be ignored, your complaint is ever-present. The dire consequences of the grievance bring about permanent change. Some of life’s changes cannot be controlled, but must be accepted as a reality. You can’t bring back your old life like you’re rereading an old email.

acceptance

Although it is difficult to do so in your complaint, you must agree to your change in status. Deferring action to do so is not a worthwhile option. Choose four things you will do today to embrace the new you and your new circumstance. Don’t waste time, take control of the new you with acceptance and a commitment of your own to fully embrace your condition.

You can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, with your life stopped by the weight of your loss. Choosing to move past the pain point in your life is a better option. You have the inner power not only to prepare to live but to live. There may be times when you take one step forward and two steps back. Unlike many acquired earthly things, however, character is portable. You can transfer the mineral of your experience, which is character, to give you the power to face unexpected obstacles. Decide now to wake up and get out of the dark side of your grievance. Especially today think you can. Today use your inner strength to bring you more happiness, peace and joy.

Remember that you are in mourning, because of your grievance condition. The tort never ends. Your coping skills increase as you move through your grievance, and you intensify your ability to find more happiness on the other side of your pain and grief. Learning to reconcile more often increases your happiness. This understanding brings more harmony to a life full of hope. You can take advantage of a healthier recovery if you clearly understand that healing lies in the reconciliation of your grievance. Finding moments of happiness and well-being should be your daily goal. It’s you?