Self love is the love that you give yourself and that you feel for yourself. He is not selfish or narcissistic. It is pure and in harmony with loving others. It implies caring love, respect, trust, acceptance and approval of oneself. It puts you at peace in the place on this Earth where you, as part of this beautiful Universe, are loved. Self love is within all of us from conception. In childhood, it is maintained by showing loving attention, approval, praise, acceptance, forgiveness, and unconditional love.

When a parent or other person in loco parentis (such as the classroom teacher) projects unresolved doubts and limiting beliefs, this can affect the growing child. Taking things further, if you are a survivor of child abuse or neglect, you have probably missed out on years of learning about self-love. But the good news is that you can still learn, even if you don’t fully love yourself right now. Anyone can learn to love themselves. Learning to love yourself can be done in one of the following ways:

• Releasing feelings of self-hatred, self-hatred and/or negative self-criticism. The easiest way to do this is with energy healing techniques, where you are helped to release the energy that is holding these feelings in place. Without these negative feelings, your inner self love will be free to express itself and be free. Techniques to do this include EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Body Talk, and Kinesiology.
• Embracing positive self-talk, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Methods of doing this include affirmations, hypnosis, and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).
• Training to allow the energy of love to enter your mind-body and its energy field. Techniques that can help you do this are Reiki, spiritual healing, and regular guided imagery.

Once you know how to allow it into your being, self-love is a great gift to cherish and nurture. And true love is unconditional. By its very definition, it has no strings attached. It does not come with ties. It simply is. True self love is also unconditional. It is without judgement. It may feel strange at first, and you may even wonder how you can deserve this love. But if you love yourself unconditionally, then you don’t deserve or earn this love. You just allow it without hesitation. Learning to love yourself using these methods can be done from home or you can start with some self-development workshops, join an online self-development forum or course, or do a distance learning course.