If someone just bought a car, there’s a good chance they took it for a test drive first. This would have given them a chance to find out what it’s like and see if it would be a good match for them.

Along with this, they most likely have asked a number of questions about the car. After all, this was a great decision, so it’s a good thing they did their research and didn’t go with just any car.

a different approach

However, while someone may be judicious when it comes to what they buy, this might not be the case when it comes to who they start a relationship with. Therefore, even though this is an important area of ​​their life, they may act like it isn’t.

If they behaved this way when buying a car, they could end up buying a car that is dangerous or that only looks good on the outside. Either way, they will have ended up making a bad decision.

The essential

What someone like that might find is that as long as someone else looks good, it’s enough to take things further. The effect that this person’s appearance has on them will put them in an altered state of consciousness, and this state will take away their ability to think clearly.

the hello effect

Thanks to the appearance of the other person, one will see them through rose-colored glasses. If they were to express what’s going on inside them, it might sound like this: ‘they look good, so every other part of them must be good too’.

So you’re not going to be taking a drug that interferes with your ability to think rationally, but it will be like you do. One will have put the other person on a pedestal, which probably means he has a long way to go.

two ends

Over time, it might become clear that their previous idea of ​​the other person had very little basis in reality. At one point in time they would have been in heaven, but at another, they would be in hell.

If something like this happened once, it would be enough, but when this happens regularly, it will cause someone to experience a lot of pain. However, it would not be accurate to say that this is always what happens when someone continually ends up with the wrong person.

another scenario

Conversely, one might find that they have a tendency to be attracted to people who seem strong and capable. At first they will feel like they are with someone who will treat them well, only to find that this person ends up becoming really controlling.

When this happens, the other person will appear to have possessed all the correct traits at first, but ended up becoming another person over time. Because of the number of people you’ve been around who were like this, you may be wondering if you have a sign on your head that says “only checking in on people.”

The common denominator

Although it might be hard for someone who ends up with the wrong person all the time to see a positive in all of this, the good news is that they will be the person who will keep coming up. What this means then is that in order to attract someone who is different, they will have to change.

The area that will probably need to be changed is your inner world; changing your appearance in some way, for example, is unlikely to be the answer. In the same way that changing a car’s appearance is unlikely to make it run better, changing its appearance is unlikely to solve what’s going on.

One option

If someone is not willing to look at what is going on inside them and the effect it is having on this area of ​​their life, they might ask their friends for help. So when you meet someone you think is a good match, you might ask one of your friends to come and spend time with them on different occasions.

The problem with this approach is that your other person may fake it at first, and one’s friend might not be a good judge of character. On the other hand, if one begins to resolve the wounds that are within them, it will be easier for them to see other people for who they are instead of projecting so much onto them.

diving in

In addition to this, little by little you will lose the attraction you feel for people who do not suit you. Some of the injuries they will need to treat may be the result of what happened when they were children.

What happened during their birth, in the womb, and what was passed down ancestrally, can also influence the type of person they are attracted to as adults. Dealing with this baggage will not happen overnight, but it will happen as long as you are patient and persistent.

Awareness

If you want to change this area of ​​your life, you may need to seek outside support. This is something that the assistance of a therapist or healer, for example, can provide.