If that’s what you want, then you’re full… because this is the stuff of a world where you seek, find, give away, and then regret starting.

All this desire for love and romance will kill you.

Instead, try to become your own person. You will be more loved, your relationships will last longer, you will be more respected, and you will probably have more romance over time.

A boring, unromantic, sentimental, soft-centered person who seeks romance and pleasure is like a fish that wants to walk. It is very wise to learn to swim and enjoy it.

We are human beings. Of course we long for love. But the love we need is more vital than the love we want.

And the love we need is self-love.

That doesn’t mean sitting in a corner nuzzling your neck and kissing the back of your hand. What self-love means is being excited about your life.

Enthusiasm is another word for inspiration. However, inspiration adds sustainability to the mix.

Sustained enthusiasm for your life is inspiration, and inspired people get relationships that are all of those sales gimmicks and more.

The lonely soul who craves those dirty tricks ends up giving himself up and usually half his wealth with it.

The first step to a healthy, sexy, loving, soulmate relationship is to create a life where a soulmate wants to join you. Otherwise, you will only attract like-minded needy partners whose life is also miserable and cheap.

enthusiasm for your life

• It is natural but not automatic.
• It involves discipline
• It’s about doing things that are stressful.
• It’s all about staying inspired, even when the chips are down.

History

For the past 35 years of my life, I have been inspired.

There were times when I went down with a sinking ship, but I always had a life jacket.

I’ve stayed inspired because I’ve wanted to be excited about what I do.

• I left relationships when my enthusiasm ran out.
• I stopped playing sports when my enthusiasm ran out.
• I changed careers when the enthusiasm ran out.

Some of those changes were essential, some happened because I lacked the ability to turn circumstances in my favor.

I think the enthusiasm I’m talking about comes from my heart. When my heart is open to something, it is inspiring and enthusiasm shines through my eyes, ears, nose, mouth and hands.

When my heart closes to something, no matter what I do or how hard I work at it, the end is inevitable. I will be injecting energy to stay involved which is simply unsustainable.

The inflection point

Once, as I pointed out above, when love went out, I went out.

The reason this was my only option was that I wasn’t my own person at the time.

I changed that after a few dunks from people I had become dependent on for romance and rescue. I decided to become self-sufficient in enthusiasm and inspiration and therefore not be conditioned by people, places and jobs.

So, I became my own person by taking back the power. That is how:

1. I became realistic. Instead of falling in love that somewhere, someone, or something was going to change my life, I became totally independent of circumstances because of my enthusiasm and inspiration. So whether I was shoveling cow dung or scratching the back of a new lover, I was inspired, regardless. Becoming a realist was simple. He just needed to see both sides of everything and know that under the green grass that looked good, there was manure and fertilizer underneath. That is, the Universal Law of Nature number 1. Everything has two sides and, therefore, nothing is going to change.
2. I found out what my purpose in life is. Instead of chasing rainbows and romance, I woven my purpose in life into everything I did. That means, even if I was sitting in the rain on a mountainside in Nepal with 5 tired and angry customers, I could relate to my purpose. Instead of making my purpose in life like a blanket over everything, I instead made my purpose like a silken thread that I could weave through everything I do. That way, I’m inspired, even when I’m in situations that aren’t inspiring.
3. I committed to nonviolence. That means “Do no harm.” This was the hardest because sometimes you want to stick a banana up someone’s nose and it takes great restraint not to. Like the people who come to my workshop to learn, and then spend all their time telling me why what they already know is fantastic… The way I handle this is by valuing time as my greatest asset in life. Time is my God, my Guru. I choose not to waste it, I choose not to give it where it’s not valued, and I choose to remind myself that every second that just passed is precious and gone forever. So, I figured out where I was wasting my time (trying to teach people who didn’t want to listen) and just focused on where my time would best achieve my result. TIME IS THE GURU
4. I don’t compete. I’m a real competitive bastard. I love the enthusiasm that comes from overcoming. But I’ve learned that enthusiasm, inspiration, and competition have some areas of conflict. So I compete with myself. I stopped competing with people for the best opinion, the best picks, the most money, the fastest paddle, the best blog. I compete, every moment of my life, with myself. I love this. It makes relationships less meaningful and therefore more loving, it makes work more enjoyable and therefore less stressful. And, in health, it is the best thing I have ever done. Most of the time I don’t even participate in competitions because each training session is an absolute excitement and inspiration for me. I have enough.
5. I stopped wanting love and relationships to change my life. I realized that when I am with the ONE I want the many… and when I am with the MANY I want the one… I realized that if I cannot love the birds, the dogs, nature, cats and trees, I can not love. And if I can’t love everyone, I can’t love anyone. The idea of ​​finding a cocoon in which to celebrate love and then going out to face the ugly, harsh realities of the world was probably one of the dumbest ideas society shared with me. So I stopped playing blame games, stopped playing the victim (oh poor me, my partner isn’t doing what makes me happy) and started becoming the best couple I know. Love starts by acting in a way (enthusiastic and Inspired) that is nice and lovable to me.

Becoming your own person

When you meet a lover, partner or whatever, they are drawn to you because you are your own person. Then, very quickly, they and you start giving each other advice. The net result of which, if followed, will make both equal.

If you listen, take, follow, comply, agree, settle, bow down to your partner’s moaning, moaning, complaining, stressing, affairs, bag of worms, you end up just like her, and that’s probably the last person on earth who she wants a relationship with. Most people don’t like themselves very much.

Becoming your own person is a non-violent way of saying to others, “Get a life.” It is compassionate because it is not necessary to argue with them. He is kind because you understand that his intention is not bad. It’s funny, because you can still be in love even when your partner acts like a Neanderthal.

Becoming your own person also requires insight. You have to understand what makes people tick so you can’t “buy” their stuff.

Most people try to become amateur psychologists. They read a book, go to a fancy workshop and think they have found the keys to Pandora’s box. Not so.

The best and most accurate way to understand people is to know:

• Everybody has all the traits
• There are two sides to everyone
• There are seven areas of life.
• You look at yourself when you look at others.
• And there are some people who are evolved and others who are not. Life makes us evolve, and it is not in a great rush to do so.
• Relationships between two people of different levels of evolution last until they are equal.
• Two people who come to a relationship will end up owning the average of what they arrived at. If one person has $10 and another has $1, they will both end up with $5, this goes for health, wealth, happiness, love, inspiration, fun, family, and everything in between. The pairs average each other. Therefore, choose wisely.
• Great relationships disagree 50% of their energy.
• A person who is open-minded in one area of ​​life is totally closed-minded in another.

Disappointment

Ultimately, the relationships are disappointing.

The main reason for this is that people lose their sense of self, or hope to find it in a relationship. It’s not there.

If you become your own person, with your own likes, likes, dislikes, preferences, shapes, processes and you can weave your silken thread of purpose throughout your life and thereby remain enthusiastic and inspired for your life as an individual , then, there is hope for a relationship that purely reflects the opportunity you have created for yourself and your inspiration.

Finally,

The purpose of a relationship is not happiness.

The purpose of a relationship is to make you evolve. Once you evolve to where that relationship was meant to evolve, then the relationship has no purpose. (dead). If you leave or the relationship ends and you haven’t made your evolution into unconditional love for that person, that’s okay, you’ll just end that journey in the next relationship (called repeating old patterns) – to me, it’s better to be whole in a way or another so that the new relationship is not a hybrid of the previous one. That is just a process of sucking energy, death of enthusiasm, process of suffocation of inspiration.

So, back to the sales pitch:

• Are you looking for more romance and love in your life?
• Is it time to put the past behind you and manifest the relationship of your dreams?
• Are there old wounds that prevent you from enjoying the magnificent gifts of a devotional loving relationship?
• Does your soul long for a partner who can share life’s journey with you?
• Has your energy been blocked from the potential for deep, intimate, sensual, sacred love?
• Are you ready for the wonders of Sacred Love, romance and intimacy?
• Is it a soul mate you’re longing for, is it time?
• Bored to wake up, eat, work, watch TV, sleep. Do you want more from life?

then just become your own personget inspired and excited about your single life, and all of the above could, surprisingly, reflect your world.