Your husband has just told you that he has had an affair. He says that he still loves you, but the new woman is exciting and he cares about her appearance. Her question to you is Why did you get carried away?

Adventures are heartbreakers. They often come like a bolt from the blue and leave a trail of treachery and disaster. When your husband explains that he had an affair because you no longer looked like the girl he married, he’s going to hurt a lot. One part of you is so angry and wants to throw something away while the other part wants to pack a suitcase and leave.

Does he have a point? When you met, you were meticulous in your dress code. Your hair was always lovely and your makeup perfect. Thing is, men are really affected by looks and if his Cinderella suddenly turns into the ugly stepsister, can you blame him for looking elsewhere? Men have a different point of view on things like this, since they are more sexually motivated. They have more magazines of naked girls in the stands than we have of naked men. Catch us in the store ogling the centerfold? No, we’re too busy shopping and buying the kids new shoes.

So after having a few kids, you may have gotten carried away. You may have gained some weight and haven’t been to the hairdresser for a while. You can yell at your husband that he doesn’t understand what it’s like to be pregnant. But will he listen to him? The problem here is that he may be the most loving father in the world, but he still wants his wife to look good.

If getting her looks back means saving the marriage, it’s surely worth it. Please don’t get me wrong, I am a strong woman and very independent, but I keep myself in good shape. It makes me feel so good and adds to the romance.

Sometimes when women are having babies, they don’t feel the same way as men. Since they can’t stand much change, their drives and needs don’t change. You see, men think they signed a contract that meant this beautiful woman they married would look good forever. When you’re ready to jump ship on marriage, perhaps think about a quick makeover first and remember that men think differently.