Is it hard for you to stop feeling insecure about your relationship? Has he done something to make you have these feelings, or do you worry for no reason? Are you worried that he might find someone new and leave you, even if there’s no reason for you to think that way? If you feel insecure, you are definitely in a bad place in your own mind and if you don’t get rid of these feelings, your fears can come true.

consider how you feel

Put yourself in his place. If he tells you all the time that he loves you and doesn’t do anything that would make you think he doesn’t, what’s the problem? You’re basically slapping him and letting him know you don’t believe or trust him, and how do you think this will make him feel?

You may feel insecure, but you will make him believe that you don’t really love him either. If you continue down this path of being insecure in your relationship, you are asking for trouble. Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? That’s where you make something happen because of your actions. Well, you can pretty well predict that your relationship will stop if you don’t change a few things.

tell him how you feel

The first thing you should do is tell him that what you feel is more for you than for him. If you’ve been in a bad relationship where the guy treated you badly and destroyed your trust, tell him. At least that way he can understand what makes you act the way you are and help you get past these feelings of insecurity that another guy caused.

Let him know that you know he’s one of the good guys and that you’re lucky to have him. In a teasing way, ask him to remind you if you ever forget you said that. And then think about what you just said to this wonderful boy and do your best to try to let go of your insecurity.

Whatever you do, don’t…

Whatever you do, don’t get clingy and needy about him. There will be times when you need a little reassurance and it’s okay to ask him if he loves you once in a while. But don’t harass him by asking for constant reassurance.

In addition, it is important that you give him a break. Holding on too much is not the way to go if you don’t want your insecurity to ruin your relationship. Trust him to go out with his friends without accompanying you. She confides in him to have lunch with a group of his co-workers, even though some of them are women. And why wouldn’t you trust him if he’s never given you a reason not to?

The bottom line is that he is with you because he wants to be with you, not because he has to be. He thinks about it when you feel insecure and changes that bad feeling for a good one. It is your choice how you feel. Why not choose to feel secure in your love?

If you want to learn more about dating confidence and dealing with past issues with love, I’d love to help!