Let us think of love not as a word but as an action. Instead of saying “I love you”. Show your wife that you love her. Be more loving! How can a man show his wife that he loves her? Making!

Forget the box of chocolates and flowers. Any man can go buy these things. But no man can show love to his wife on a whim. Chocolates are eaten and make your wife fat and cranky; the flowers wither and die in three days. How about showing your love by doing things that you know your wife will enjoy?

~How a husband should love his wife~

When was the last time you drank and dined on your wife? How about a mini vacation? Are you the romantic type? If not, find out how you can surprise your wife by being a romantic guy. What would that imply?

A woman likes a man who knows how to cook. How about cooking him an intimate candlelight dinner for two? You do not know how to cook? Get a cookbook and do it anyway. Have fun in the kitchen and have fun.

Don’t forget that your wife likes to be touched and held without the pressure of sex looming in the near future. Sometimes the hugs and cuddles are more important to her than the act of sex itself. It’s not that she doesn’t like her orgasm, it’s that she wants to KNOW that you love her more than the sex act itself. Hug her and hug her and you will most likely get what you want later.

The most important way to show your love is through your acceptance and validation. Are you the kind of person who dismisses your wife’s choices, wants, and needs through invalidation? This type of behavior will cause all kinds of problems in the marriage. Let me tell you why.

By invalidating his wife in any way, he has essentially rejected her. He will feel as if her opinions, decisions and beliefs do not count and should not be considered important. She will keep this in her consciousness and it will come back to haunt you later in the marriage. This will not be on purpose, but mainly because you have hurt her. She loves you and when you invalidate her feelings, thoughts, actions, beliefs, views and opinions, she gets hurt!

Let me tell you a great secret about women, which also includes your wife. Her wife may ask for her opinion on something because it is in her nature to get a second opinion, but that does not necessarily mean that she will accept her opinion or her opposing point of view.

I’m not talking about the issue of submission here either. What I am talking about is the everyday thoughts and actions of his wife. If for any reason you really feel like it’s best to disagree with her thoughts and feelings, do so AFTER you’ve said something positive about the way she thinks and feels. Be understanding! If you really validate her, she’ll see it your way, even if she won’t admit it.

Your wife may also like to express her feelings more than you do, not because she needs you to find a solution, but because she is just a sounding board. Give her validation on what she has to say and then ask her if she is looking for an opinion or a solution before giving it to her. This doesn’t make a lot of sense to you, but to us women, it makes a lot of sense.

~How a wife should love her husband~

I firmly believe that it is easier to make a man happy than to make a woman happy. I believe this because men don’t really ask for much. If they can camp out on hard ground with ants and other bugs, how hard can they be to please? Yes, I know this sounds superficial, but think about it for a moment. Have you noticed how much happier and less stressed your man is when he has his two most important needs met, sex and food?

It is also semi-true that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. He love to eat and they love to eat good tasty food. When his stomachs are full and they’ve been physically taken care of, a man doesn’t ask for much more.

Don’t forget, home is a man’s castle. Knowing this, do your best to keep your castle tidy and free from stressful situations that could upset your balance. He’s been working all day and wants to come home to a sweet, loving wife, not a curmudgeon and a TV dinner.

Appreciate every little thing your man does around the house. Make your man feel like a man by being a woman. Give him a hug and a kiss where it counts, talk about your day together. Do not sexually reject your husband. Make him feel good about himself by telling him. Respect him for who he is and what he does!

Basically, a woman needs validation and intimacy, and a man needs sex and good food. He finds ways that he can give of himself in the marriage by being more loving in these areas.

And men, after you have shown your wife how much you love her, then you can buy her the chocolates and the flowers.